An excellent article in the guardian comment section talked about a dead man in Illinois, who lived his life being nude, and whose neighbours prosecuted him for it, being buried fully clothed, in spite of his wishes.
UK is more tolerant, but only in comparison.
People equate nudity with sex. The nudist movement tries to remove this criticism, by desexualising themselves.
However, I think nudism is most effective when it tells people that they can be less than body perfect and still be nude.
They remind people not to heed the body fascism which pervades modern thinking of the naked body.
'The sad thing is, we need nudists on the beach now more than ever. They alone are brave enough to defy the tyranny of the body beautiful. Dedicated as they are to feeling comfortable in their skin, they eschew such practices as bikini-waxing, fake tanning, or plastic surgery. Lumpy, hairy, defiantly natural, they are our last defence against the porn-star aesthetic.'
So nudist are comfortable with their bodies, no matter that it is not perfect and ugly to look at even.
'But they dont have to look at themselves. We are the ones to have to see them.' You might cry. And you will be right. haha.
I think when we know most people do not wish to look at cripples or deformity, they might look at an ugly body as akin to that.
It will take society many lifetimes to attain that enlightened state, to see the soul that surrounds the deformed body. People who practise social nudism are well advanced in that respect. Not all nudist are that enlightened.
It says much for how difficult it is to overlook deformity, when the early nudist movements were about health, and exercise to attain a body beautiful.
I think we are going full circle, from primitive societies where nudity is the norm, we have come to being clothed, and some of us are going back to nudity.I doubt full fledge nudity will ever be accepted.Nor is it desirable. We will still need clothes for warmth.
Well, thank goodness a totally naked world won't happen too soon. There is a lot of fun to be had by being different, and not conform.
In the meantime, we nudist can create our own world where we can be naked all the time.
People adopt the naked lifestyle for many reasons. Long may they be allowed to do so.
next planned nudist holiday
Paul and I will be going to the Isle de Levant. John won't be able to join us this time.
This is a naturist Mediterranean island off France, near Nice.
we are looking for others to join us so we can share the cost of hiring a chalet for 1 wk, in June or July or august 2006. in fact, if any of u have cabins to let out, we are interested.
also, will welcome any one who had gone there to tell us of ur experience of it.
From what I read of it, (in its webpage which i found by googling it) it is a beautifully landscaped island, where nudism is ok everywhere except the town.
The French are very at ease with nudity and they swing both ways, and so the island will be ideal for every one of every sexual persuasion.
Apart from the sexual aspect, there is also the joy of roaming all round the island naked (excpt for the little town) and the climate should be hot enough during the summer if they say it is mild to be naked even in winter.
I want to see and experience the place just to be able to find a place that gives me the sense of freedom, both physically, and sexually to live this naked lifestyle without too many rules.
a naked party
Last night, I attended a naked party.
I enjoyed the frisson of seeing other naked bods, andbeing naked myself and to feel the direct enhanced sensations the body gets when it can come into direct contact with the surroundings unmarred by clothing.
It was a all guys party, and most were young and fit, with lean bodies, so it was nice visual candy too.
However, after the initial frisson, and the constant sight of naked bodies to look at, there was no other difference from any other social party where people talk nonsense and eat and mostly drink alcohol.
There was a really strong punch made and I forgot how potent it can be, and drank it and got nauseous and that made me sleepy. Someone told me my face is very red, and I felt warm and began to itch. I get this reaction to alcoholic drinks. Its been a long time since i have felt this way.
Fortunately, I drank water after that and ate some food and the feeling went and I got more sober.
Later in the evening as more guys came, the guys congregated in the kitchen, talking while standing in a circle.
There was not enough seating in the lounge.
Someone suggested playing the game, Twister, but our host hasn't got the gameboard.
I think it would have made people relax and be less inhibited about making body contact.
Still, there was some information i gleaned from the conversations and that gave me ideas ... nude yoga, and tantric sex workshops that some of the guys went to.
They joined a course and paid money for it. I feel it is not necessary. It should be easy to set up one ourselves, and learn it by practising on each other.That is the theory. In practise, however, all of those present dont see it. They all feel they must have someone teach them. They dont feel they can do it themselves and learn on the job and pick up skills from dvds. For eg, one of them even bought 3 dvds of nudeyoga, showing how it is done with partners; he was concentrating only on the naked bodies...not surprising, and so missed the moves. haha
I know the yoga positions, but only done individually, not with a partner.
After writing the above, a friend, who is in spain now,and we chatted. He reminded me when i said a friend is going to teach me tantric when i return from our naked holiday in spain, that he is sharing his experiences with me. I said, yes, that is what i meant, and in the sharing i know he will also gain from it as i know i shall from him.
It is a two way process.
That is how I would like to learn.
a gay man's personal view of cap'dagde
report on Capdagde. South France
we flew in via Ryanair to Montpellier.
It costs us 100 pounds sterling all in return on 4th june - 18thjune 05
the official tariff taxi to Agde is 100 euros between 7am -7pm(day rate) , 150 euros between 7pm - 7am.(nite rate)
We shared a taxi with another couple (2 ladies) 130 euros (nite rate) to capdagde.
'the trip was about 45mins.
We booked via Real Oltro the agents who managed a friend's studio there.
We paid 28 pounds sterling a day for 2 of us, no extra charge for 2 more. The studio sleeps 4.
It is Heliopolis E. on the 2nd floor, overlooks the roof of the shops towards the sea.
When we were there, the swimming pool and mini golf course in the middle were built over with flats under construction. 'these will form a little enclave of flats with its own swimming pool in the middle of the ground enclosed by the circle of flats of Heliopolis.
The studio is very central, easy walking distance to the bakers, grocers, supermarkets of Heliopolis, and Port Amborne.
The studio flat gets the morning sun, and is in shadow during the afternoon. This is a plus, as the sun gets very hot .
During the time we were there, first 2 weeks of june, the days were pleasant, with a cool breeze, warm enough to be naked, but the nights were chilly, because of the cold winds. We can get by wearing only a T-shirt. Many were fully clothed.
Only at the end of our holiday, was it warm enough to be naked at night.
the ambiance of the place for me is being able to be naked all the time, both indoors and outdoors; and able to do all the day to day living, buying food, strolling around the town, the beach naked.
We did self catering. The studio was equipped with a stove with 2 hot plates and a microwave. and all utensils and crockery. it has a electric kettle.
The day starts with a stroll to the bakers to buy the daily croissant and french bread.
Few people are about and the fresh breeze on the naked body is invigorating.
Breakfast in the balcony, and watch the sun rise over the sea.
Some of us go to the beach. The part nearer the town is family , whilst the adult beach is further away. Most of us go to the adult beach. During June, the dunes are not patrolled and so it is possible to go in a short distance from the beach and access the shady trees there.
From July and August, these areas are out of bounds, and enforced by police who will fine trespassers.
then, during lunch time, we get back and go to the shops to do some food shopping in the nude.
the salads are fresh and abundant. there are three kinds of salad leaves, tomatos, two types of cucumbers.
It is very pleasant to stroll among the shops in the shade.
We would rest in the flat and amuse ourselves there in the heat of hte day.
Come the late afternoon, the shops reopens and there is activity again.
If you do not wish to go to the beach, you can pay for a drink and stay in the swimming pools area. there are 3 choices of swimming pools to choose from.
You can eat out. During lunch, u can eat naked, bringing only something to sit on.
People here dont eat dinner naked. However, u can go naked if u wish.
On the last day of our stay, we had dinner naked. Another couple (man naked but not female companion) were the only other people naked. Even then, midway through the evening, the man left to dress as he felt the chill.
we continued throughout the whole dinner naked.
that evening it was warm enough to be naked at night. The weather was warming up after the middle of June.
There is of course casual sex available if u so wish.
Plenty of chances to pick people up outdoors, whether gay or straight or bi.
this place is very ideal for swingers.
there is a camping ground, with guards at the entrances at night to stop unauthorised people from entering.
During the day, only the main gate is manned.
The showers have their water supply on only at certain hours.
It is nicer to have studio flats. Then , there is constant hot water and it is cooler during the heat of the day and warmer at night.
There was one night of our stay when it ws so cold we had to have the heater on in the studio room.
if u hire the studio from the agents, they will take u through the gates in the car, with ur luggage, and even though u have to buy a week pass, if u dont intend to leave the place on foot, that can be dispensed with.
we had friends visiting us in a car, and they bought a weeks pass for 12 euros, which enabled them to take any passengers in.
Our studio also has a free car parking space.
the ideal arrangement, we found is to have 3 share the flat. 4 will be a bit crowded.
Better still if all 3 are sexual partners. You will have a wonderful time then, as u go cruising outdoors, and can return to partners in the studio to finish u off sexually. That way, you can take ur time about coming elsewhere, or u can rely on ur friends to relieve ur frustration if u are unsuccessful in ur adventures outside. That is the ideal situation for some.
Of course, u can have just as wonderful a time, not having sex at all.
and just enjoy being naked all the time during ur stay, and be completely free from clothes.
Capdagde is not prudish about sex and sexual display. It is not unusual to have men walk about with hard ons, or semi hardons. and no one objects or frowns at it. So it can be very liberating, and unself conscious if u develop a hard on what with the breeze stimulating you directly. There is also lots of naked people to see, and that can be a visual stimulus for some. Whatever the cause, if u do get a hard on, you need not feel self conscious about it. That is something that is nice about Capdagde.
For all the sexual display, there is no open sexual activities in the public areas like shops, restaurants or bars.
everyone keeps their distance, and avoid physical contact. It is supposed to be polite not to look at people's genitals. Of course, you need not be polite and you can look, just do it discreetly. haha. Its a great opportunity to compare organs if u r a man and study the wide variety of shapes and sizes.
I get the impression that there are a lot of male nudists there who have large s. Or maybe it is because i only notice the large s I see, and blot out all the small s. I am well aware at how the mind selects images to remember. Haha.
They can't all be taking viagra, or cialis can they? haha.
Maybe it is just me, because I dont mind if others look at me, but I get the impression that the guys there dont mind if u check out their organs.
Maybe women are offended if someone looks at their breasts and genitals (I dont know why, if a guy looks it means there is something to look at. that is flattering isn't it? i daresay someone will argue that it is sexist to say so. I wish the world will never use the words sexist, ageist, racist, ever) not that there is much to see in their genital area. But I dont get this message from the guys. Guys seem to be more at ease with people looking at their genitals. Maybe because guys dont interpret it as a threatening gesture. Guys are more confident, as society expects them to be the more aggressive species. So, if they see someone checking them out, they are pleased for they have got something big or an attractive for the other guy to want to look at.
Society inherently wishes its females to be receptive and passive. And this idea has been picked up by women, and so they act it out. If u tell someone from a young age that the shy, passive, modest female attracts males, they will become that and behave in a certain way. And one way, is to be offended if someone looks at them 'in a certain way'. Usually guys they are not attracted to. They will reacte very differently if it is done by a guy who they find attractive. then, according to Simon, my boyfriend, they will fiddle with their hair.
Certainly, it is apparent that the males in capdage are more willing to be naked than their female companions.
Also, I notice the children there are very blase about adult nakedness. That is great. They dont act embarrassed or frightened and that is a good thing for it will equip them to better handle any situation when they are confronted with a naked male. they wont think it a threatening situation.
Also, they will be seeing their parents naked and that is a good thing. They will see erections and not feel threatened by it.
I remember reading somewhere a woman saying she feels threatened when she sees a erect . That is tragic (for her I mean) in my opinion.
I wonder whether there is a male equivalent. A male who feels frightened by seeing large breasts. No, i dont think so, as we are exposed to large breasts during breast feeding time. Maybe that explains why men are fascinated by big breasts. They are reminded of a blissful time during childhood.
so ladies, dont be offended when a man oogles ur big breasts, they remind him of his childhood and his mother. haha.
Anyway, coming back to Capdagde, its a great feeling when the breeze tickles ur genitals, free to swing about and caresses ur thighs as u walk about openly in the outdoors, and see others doing the same.
Saturday, 22 October 2005
a day at costa natura, near estepona south spain
Spent whole day here.
E25 entry fee for 2, E15 for one. E20 deposit returnable for the locker key.
We joined the yoga class, conducted in the open on the grass overlooking the nudist beach, with the wide sweep of the sea spread before us. On one side, the large mass of Gibraltar, and further on the tops of the Atlas mountains, and on the other side, Estepona, with its houses rising up the flanks of the hillside.
It felt wonderful,doing the yoga poses naked with the warmth from the rising sun on my body.
All except one of the male participants was naked. All of the women participants including our yoga instructor, were clothed.
Of the men, all except the clothed one were friends of Ken's , our host. This include John, and I , and a new friend, Michael.
Michael is in his late 60s or early 70s, and told us he had been influenced by ken to consider retiring here, selling his house in millhill in london, and buying two 3 bed flats, one to let, and live here.He had not regretted it.
He keeps himself busy, doing volunteering work with an old folks home, mainly of British people, his job is to carry stuff donated to the charity shop run by them.
I asked him whether he had made any local friends. He had, with 3 of them, all out of towners, who he met in the cruising ground just near by where we are now. I have been there, and it is a bamboo grove, with a maze of well trodden paths through it, forming grottos, and cul de sacs. The ideal cruising design.
The costa natura complex is very well maintained, set high up from the nudist beach, which gets cleaned of seaweeds by a tractor, every morning.
The well landscaped grounds rise up the hill, among the flats which are placed in a seemingly haphazard fashion, which is very pleasing to the eye, all whitewashed, so that the effect made me exclaim to John, 'This is so mediterranean!'
To which he replied 'But it is the mediterranean!'
There is a downside to living so close to the sea, last winter, we were told, the storm destroyed the retaining vegetation and swept away some of the garden necessitating the purchase of large rocks to shore it up.
It was lovely to be able to see this beautiful view while soaking in the jacuzzi, or having a lounge near the pool all naked of course.
Looking at all this splendour, seeing the peole lying in the sun all day, at the children at play, with the male adult facillitor whose sole job is to look after the kids, I became very pensive. Paul noted this when he mentioned it later to me, asking what was I thinking about?
I did not answer him.
My answer would have been, 'sitting there in this ideal environment of my dreams, I realise it is not want I want after all.
I want gay guys round me, and the hustle and bustle , and vulgarity and sexual atmosphere of a town open to all, and not the restricted environment full of rules. The supermarket here has a notice asking customers to wear something, 'for health and safety issues'.
We were uncomfortable allready when they repaired the front gates to the vera playa complex where our rented flat was in, and we were locked in.It brought home to us the fears about security has inevitably altered and threatened the free and easy nature of being naked, and communing with nature. Living here, where security is even more stringent, will be intolerable.
It would appear, Capdagde is still the nearest to my idea of the nudist life