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When you have a nudist partner/wife /GF. Posted on Sep 13, 2017 at 04:38 PM

I started out as a single nudist.  It was hard making friends; no matter how hard I tried.  There was this sense of "caution" that emanated from other nudists when I tried to be friendly towards them.  It felt like distrust.  So I spent most of my clothes-free time alone.  It was like a vicious circle because the more I felt rejected, the more I kept to myself and didn't even try to socialize.

 

Then I met my wife, and eventually started bringing her to the resort.  She was very shy at first and kept on a sarong or a towel wrapped around her.  It was still difficult making friends. But we did eventually befriend a couple.

 

And with the couple's support and encouragement, my wife started showing more of herself.  Staying undressed for longer periods of time, getting comfortable with it.  And then she started really embracing social nudity.

And at the resort it became like light and day.  She'd started going completely naked at the resort; and people actually started going out of their way to meet us and befriend us.  Usually talking to her first.  We were invited to parties, get-togethers, etc... by other couples and families.  And I was like "wow...just wow."  These same people would have never given me the time a day as a single male nudist.  But because I now had an attractive naked companion with me, I was suddenly a "viable" nudist friend.

 

I understand first-hand the plight of the single male nudist.  It sucks.

 

 

 

 

 

The issue with "clothing-optional." Posted on Sep 08, 2017 at 11:17 PM

Ok...so this is a bit of a rant.  But bare with me.

 

Back in the day, nudism meant completely naked.  Many resorts would not even give visitors a tour until they undressed first.

 

Somewhere along the line resorts changed their policy to "clothing-optional."  And not to sound sexist, but the primary reason for that was to attract more women to nudism.  It gave them the option of not always have to be completely naked and experience nudism at a "slower pace" if they were shy or reluctant.  But this change came at a cost.

 

Mind you, I am not "anti-clothing-optional."  As a matter of fact I would have never gotten my wife to try nudism without that option.  When we went to the resort for the first time, she got to stay covered.  That allowed her to walk around for a bit, without stress, and experience the resort and see other nudists without feeling pressured to get naked. 

After a while of walking around she felt comfortable enough to free her breasts.  Then she felt comfortable enough to get naked outside the pool area and get a feel for her naked body being out in the open; but away from other people.  Finally she felt good about being naked, her confidence went up; and she decided to go introduce herself to other nudists.  After chatting she was ok with being completely naked around other nudists.

 

So without that "clothing-optional" policy she would have never gotten comfortable with the idea of being socially nude.  The short term benefit of "clothing-optional" was evident.

 

But the problem with C-O is that it does not offer a long-term solution.  For some people, who are really disinterested in complete nudity for whatever reason, C-O become a easy way out.  That's when we risk the issue of textile proliferation: when many people actually choose to stay covered.  I've seen it happen with women and their sarongs; and teens staying covered outside the pool area.  

The problem there is that when visitors come in and see textile proliferation, they will often be less inclined to disrobe or stay naked themselves.  Just as nudity can be communicative, textilism can be as well.

 

I've often seen shy newbies arrive at the resort, covered, and find themselves in the midst of completely naked people.  More often than not, they end up naked by the end of the day.  My wife once met a shy newbie at the resort; she was there with her husband and did not want to be naked.  But after conversating with my wife, and observing her completely and comfortably naked, she decided she wanted "in", undressed and hung out naked with my wife.

And I've seen the opposite happen as well.  Situations where too many people were covered; and newbie deciding to stay covered as well.

 

Far from me to impose on women (and teens) that they be forced to be naked after their first visit.  But I think they should really consider the impact on the nudist environment their textilism might have.  If they really have no intention of being completely naked, they should consider the reason they are there in the first place.  There are plenty of places people can keep their clothes on.

 

Steppingdownmysoapbox

 

 

 

Meeting online nudists in person Posted on Sep 05, 2017 at 07:54 AM

Over the years I've tried to meet online nudists in person (male and female.)  On at least three or four occasions I tried to schedule something ; but they either changed their minds, chickened out on me, or just couldn't find the time.  Maybe they feared my profile was fake and I was actually some kind of weirdo.  It was actually quite frustrating as I was hoping these people understood my intentions were strictly non-sexual nudity.

 

But sometimes it works.  I once met a nudist online (another chatroom.)  We started chatting and he invited me to a nudist get-together.  I went; but without the wife "just in case" he wasn't who he pretended to be.

He turned out to be the "real deal."  He invited me to come back and bring my wife; as he would bring his GF at the next get-together and he thought it would be a good idea for them to meet.  I explained that my wife didn't really like social nudity with strangers; and he encouraged me to try as his GF was a really "cool" person. 

 

It took me a while to convince my wife it was all on the "up and up."  I even had her chat with him online to reassure her.  Finally she agreed to meet them.

And so they met.  My new friend and his GF were both already naked.  My wife was scared they were going to turn out to be swingers.  But when she met new our female friend the two of them just naturally "hit it off."  My shy wife even dropped her sarong for a bit while hanging out with her.  At the time it was very rare for her not cover up when socializing with nudists.

And so we subsequently decided to meet up at a resort we'd ever been before.  We got there ahead of them; I went nude while my wife decided to keep her darned sarong on.  And then something unexpected happen.  As I saw our new friends arriving and walking into the pool area, already naked: my wife jumped up, tossed off her sarong and stood up, in the middle of the pool area, completely naked!  We motionned to them, exchanged hugs; and we pretty much the rest of the day hanging out naked.  My wife was now comfortable being completely naked around them.

 

After that we became really good friends.  We'd visit each other, and spend most of the time naked.  Our female nudist friend's confidence with her nudity rubbed off on my wife.  I think our friendship helped my wife get over her hang-ups about being naked around other people.

 

So I think it is challenging to meet online nudists in person.  But when it works out it can be a truly wonderful think; and well worth the effort.